Christian resources on identity and spiritual growth for single moms
A collection of post discussing the joys and struggles of single motherhood. Opportunities to laugh, cry and get a much-needed accountability check as it relates to thriving single mom and single parenting tips. Handling challenges with grace and courage.
Anyone who has followed me for some time knows I love reading. Well, I have intentioned my way to becoming an avid reader. I once read that leaders were readers, and that is when I started my journey to leading my life and home as a single mom. So I wanted to share some of my favorite books for single moms. (more…)
Honestly, raising a fivenager, I have developed a resistance, or you would call ‘tuning out’ of my daughter’s frequent whining episodes and periodic temper tantrums. Then one day, I was driving and thinking about parenting and other things, feeling myself getting worked up with heavy emotions, my mind going a mile a minute, and it hit me. I realized I was having a mommy tantrum, and I’ve probably been having them for years. (more…)
So you may have heard already that May is Mental Health Awareness Month. And I am a big advocate for this month as I have and currently deal with anxiety, which has spiked due to our current climate as a culture and country. But one thing I found to be a common denominator of most mental challenges is the disconnect from a sense of belonging, acceptance, and being understood. (more…)
Dear Single Mom,
I write you this letter because I have an obligation and call to speak into your life, situation, and new path.
My sentiment is to encourage you and guide you. I am writing this because I want you to know that I see you and I feel you.
After all, I am you.
More often than not, we can get so caught up in all we have to do as single moms that we forget that there are critical people in our lives helping us get through. I felt led to write a short post about the truths of how most single moms genuinely experience their support system. (more…)
Valentine’s day has come and gone. And guess what? Our social feeds were flooded with couples, engagements, and self-love posts. This is all good, but it can be a bit triggering for single moms desiring to have a romantic relationship. But before you act on that urge to get back out on the dating scene again unprepared, you’ll need to ask yourself specific questions before you start dating again as a single mom. (more…)
Doesn’t the title sound enticing? Like it has the answer you’ve been looking for all your life. Sorry to burst the bubble. Healthy relationships for single moms require way more than a quick fix. (more…)
Sometimes as a single mom, we can feel isolated, ignored, and invisible. We not only feel this way with our peers, but we often feel this way with God. But that is far from the truth. God loves us, and there are things that God wants single moms to know that will change the way you feel. (more…)
It has only been the first week of 2021, and it’s still feeling like 2020. There is something about the new year that makes us think there will be an immediate magical shift from the chaos the year before brought. We still have work to do. Now, more than ever, we have to put in a position to experience the changes we wish to see this year. One change I am incorporating is listening to the podcast, single mom podcasts at that. (more…)
Let me tell you about my funny Sunday night, life planning, and single mom goals setting rendezvous. Itty bitty was fast asleep, so I thought I had ample time to reflect and figure out what I was going to do for my 2021 goals.
Did you see yourself in that title? I know I did. I despise cooking to the tenth degree. Coming home after a long day’s work, just to see that you have to cook dinner, clean, make sure homework is done, make time for quiet time with God, attend your small group, watch your favorite shows , check on family/friends, and prepare for the next day. Not going to happen! It’s time to get some kitchen gadgets that will make the most nonsense single mom look like a cooking pro. (more…)
Hey Mamas! It has been awhile since I did some good ol’ blogging. I will be honest with y’all… This single mama has been under a great deal of stress. Stress not about my circumstance but stressed about making decisions (major) regarding my health, career, and the trajectory of my future. (more…)
One of the biggest things I said I was going to do as a parent was nurture my daughter’s confidence. Not saying that my parents fell short in this area. They couldn’t help me with something they knew nothing about. That is why I took the time to research kid-friendly confidence building activities to do with my daughter. (more…)
Lord knows I was not prepared for the funny truths of becoming a single parent. This journey has definitely been a funny one. (more…)
“What is a confidence coach?” “What does a confidence coach do?” “In what ways can confidence coaching help me as a single mom?” (more…)
In communication, we are always taught to sandwich tough messages with compliments. That’s fine; But there comes a time where we have to get away from pleasing people and caring about the feelings of those that have hurt us and make a decision to be at peace.
On my Journey to 30, I have definitely been transformed by God and the truth I find in His bible verses. For this post of the Journey to 30 series, I want to provide you all with a list of some of my favorite bible verses for moms or scriptures that have been pivotal in helping me overcome and thrive on my single mom journey.
Being a Christian does not make my circumstance problem free. But it allows me to see life from a different perspective, kingdom perspective rather than problem perspective.
My favorite way to lean into the scriptures or bible verses for moms is through topical research. What I am going through at that moment I find a scripture to help me understand why and help me get through to see another day.
Scriptures or bible verses (whatever you prefer) are our weapons for the enemy. We fight our battles and the lies that come to take us out with His truth.
I will tell you from experience….it WORKS!
The bible says:
The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. Proverbs 18:21
I don’t know about you but I choose life no matter what. So making sure I filll my thoughts, my heart, and my words with truth and life giving statements are a must. Therefore, I created a list of scriptures to keep in my arsenal to uplift me as a woman and as a mother in the busyness of life. Check them out now!
I hope these scriptures sparked a fire in you or pruned you where you needed to make adjustments. God’s Words individually are impactful, but when you take each scripture that speaks to you and begin to meditate on all context around it, the bible comes alive.
I’ve used various lists of scriptures or bible verses to be a starting point. If you have trouble knowing where to start to study the bible. Look up scriptures around what you’re going through at the time. It fills me everytime and quenches my curiosity.
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To kick off my journey To 30 Blog Series, I would like to share some of my favorite Instagram profiles and brands with you. I will admit I’m such a millennial mom! So, social media has become a large part of my life over the last 20 years.
My first social profile was BlackPlanet at the young tender age of 10. Yes, I was trying to be grown… just sneaky. I think this was my first profile picture. LOL
As much as I get so upset with some of the stuff I see on social media, there is always some good shining through it. I have grown to like Facebook and Instagram, as I had to go cold turkey on Snapchat (it was too distracting). But Instagram has a special place in my heart.
I love Instagram because of the constant flow of beautiful, lively images. Whether it’s advice or just postings of family outings, it is pleasing to the eye. I even invested in a new phone, so my Instagram profile could have higher-quality images.
Instagram was created to provide a simple, fun, and creative way to edit and share pictures, videos, and messages with your family & friends. It has grown to be so much more, especially as the pandemic has forced everything to be online.
In a study by Edison Research in 2019, research confirmed that 81% of moms spend significant time on social media. With most moms on Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram come in a strong 2nd and 3rd.
Did you know that moms spend an average of 17 hours a week scrolling social media feeds. That’s crazy!
Data from Weber Shandwick, shared that millennial moms are the biggest culprits because of:
So why not use your social platforms to improve your mindset, help you become a better mother, and empower you to be the woman you were always created to be. I have transformed my social media sites and feeds, especially my Instagram profile. They all focus on reminding me to focus on my spiritual life, improve relationships, and encourage me to pursue my passion in entrepreneurship.
Below I share a list of the 30 Instagram profiles that I adore personally for different reasons. I pray through your new found following, your feed will encourage you, uplift you, and bring out the best in you.
Also, check out the Resource Guide as well.
Everyone of these profiles have impacted me in some way. Hopefully this list will give you a bit of refresh and new perspective on your Instagram feed.
Check out the Resource tab for additional connections: Resource Guide
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I know the good old christian way is all about marriage and the original design of God’s family. And don’t get me wrong that still holds true and I am believing God to redeem my situation. However, I can’t deny the benefits of being a single mom.
There are some aspects of single parenting that I do not enjoy. But I was taught to be content no matter the situation (Phillipians 4:11). And to count my blessings, no matter what season I’m in. Therefore, I had to begin to dig deep and find the perks to being a single mom.
Single Mothers make up approximately 15 million of our population as head of household. The way of life has shockingly become the “norm”. See more facts below according to Very Well Family:
Although most stats are consistent, research focuses on the negatives of being a single mother. What single mothers need is a change of perspective, not a reminder. We need to hear about the positives of being a single mom. There is always talk about the lack of financial, emotional, and intellectual stability and its effects on children growing up in a “broken” home. What research isn’t reporting that more and more single mothers are well-educated and are leading our nation in multiple industries. Here’s some more facts:
Don’t you just love the media. I love this article about the Very Well Family , who spoke the truth about the stats of single motherhood.
During my journey to understand my place in the church as a single mom, there were stories that encouraged me. These stories allowed me to see myself in the Word. I was truly able to understand what impact single mothers had on history and faith. Here are the two I focused on:
Despite the different perspectives, there is always a lesson, a blessing, or an opportunity for you. Below I share the 5 benefits of being a single mom from my own journey and how it has led me to finally be the woman I always desired to be.
One thing I’ve noticed in my 5 years that most slack I get is from my parents. However, it is small compared to the idea of living with another person and having to compromise and discuss everything. The only person to consult with is God on my decisions. Mostly, there are fewer people affected by my decisions.
We already have so much on our plates. Adding a spouse to the equation may seem impossible to most. And yes, it is possible. I do understand the freedom I have now to learn myself and create a unique bond with my child. Relationships are hard work. But the opportunity to know God, yourself, and your child should be the priorities in your singleness season.
This may not apply to everyone’s story. Prior to becoming a single mother, I would rely on other people to be strong and motivated for me. Once I become one, I found new strength, purpose, and appreciation for everything within me. I was able to see the abilities God gave me to meet the needs of my child. Even with most single moms struggling in this area, more and more are gaining clarity and confidence to move forward.
You ever realize the closer someone is to you in proximity, the more you hear their voice. I’ve seen through my dating seasons since being a single mom the distracting nature of additional voices in your head. All the noise limits how well you can communicate with God and hear His instructions for you. Due to this, it’s important to make sure we prioritize our time with God for the proper healing. I definitely enjoy the small number of voices that have access to me during my redemption.
This is the main one for me. There is so much freedom in having your own space. Not having to accommodate another person’s needs and desires. In this season, I need freedom from other’s expectations of me so that I can be my most authentic self. One day I will be ready for a spouse to come into my world. But right now, I am enjoying my space to do whatever I feel outside of raising my child.
There’s some benefits of being a single mom or parent. However, as long as you continue to let God guide your path, I encourage you not to become resistant to the possibility of love and marriage. Despite our normalized circumstances and unfavorable path of the bible, God still loves us.
Remember Jesus goes after the 1 instead of the 99 (Matthew 18:12-14). He has the desire to give you a future and a hope whether it’s with a husband or not (Jeremiah 29:11). Learn to live the life God has for you and be grateful.
I didn’t plan on being a single mom, but you have to deal with the cards you are dealt the best way you can. – Tichina Arnold
I hope this post has blessed you and has given positive ways to view your single mother status. Desiring to thrive with other christian single moms, join our Facebook Group:
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As you all know, becoming a mom can come with it’s fair share of challenges. Outside of the dirty diapers and toddler tantrums, we can find ourselves losing our identity in the mix. With Pinterest moms killing the game and happy social media moms posting their family trip pictures, being a mom (whatever you identify with) can seem like an everlasting battle for self-confidence and esteem. (more…)