Christian resources on identity and spiritual growth for single moms
Every now and then, I get an urge to write a love letter to single moms just like me. This is not another one of my planned post but an outpouring of my heart. The world is changing rapidly as we knew it would but for some reason, life still hits us like a ton of bricks. My cry is for you to keep fighting single moms. Know that trouble doesn’t always last; you can overcome the struggles of single motherhood in 2023. (more…)
Sometimes life can come at you hard, and your faith is confronted with a test. For some of us, our faith is often shaken, making us second-guess what we believe. But no matter how you may respond to your test, remember there is always a way to renew your faith in a season of trials and tribulations. (more…)
Why is relationships always the topic of conversation in christian singles spaces and single mom spaces? Why is romance such a hot topic in all my friend circles? Why do the idea of eros love sometimes over power the agape love we should really seek in life and love? Today I share with you vulnerable points in my life and some wisdom turned relationship advice I have for christian single moms. (more…)
Now I am not a home decor guru. If you looked at my home today, you would think my home decor was all over the place. Even though I am ignorant to color schemes, mood boards, and feng shui arrangements, I know that to make a home a place of peace, you need reminders of God’s blessings and make room where God can dwell. (more…)
Hey loves! I am writing this post out of vulnerability because my therapist has been trying to get me to embody the true meaning of vulnerability. So I wanted to remind you to give yourself grace because there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and to stop saying it to yourself. (more…)
You are altogether beautiful, my love;
there is no flaw in you. Song of Solomon 4:7
Have you looked in the mirror and started to smile at what you saw?
I had that moment yesterday. For the first time in a long time, I didn’t pick at why my legs are so skinny, my breasts hang low and my shoulders so broad. No, I looked at myself and really loved what I saw.
But the thing about it is that I haven’t changed anything about my body. There were no clothes on top to cover it, no makeup to highlight its strong points, no jewelry to make my skin look kissed by the sun. There was none of that. It was just me in my nakedness with undergarments on, standing in front of the mirror, admiring every inch of me.
Then it hit me, it was God who changed how I saw myself. It was spending time in his Word and being edified by the sweet words He continues to speak to me. It was the openness of my mind to accept the truth so that I can see and understand the fullness of who I am.
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God has made us fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalms 139:14
He made us complex and designed to be of help to others in this world. Ephesians 2:10
God gave us bodies to protect our spirit and to use to win souls on this earth. 1 Cor 15:44
He reminds us that our bodies are a temple, a place of honor and holy ground. God makes sure we know that our body belongs to Him. 1 Cor 6:19-20
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Our bodies do not make us who we are, it is just our vessel. Our bodies are not meant to be ogled over by many men but kept for the one who knows how to handle it with care. Our bodies won’t leave with us when we leave this earth, just a compilation of dust, clay, and breath that is soon to go away.
But see, the enemy desires for us to not fully understand the fullness of ourselves. He wants us to be distracted by our bodies, obsessed with our bodies, and become discouraged and defeated enough to no longer see ourselves as a strong and beautiful spirit encapsulated by body.
God says we are more than our bodies. He sees beyond our shells, exterior beauty, and presentation. He sees us for who we are, deep down in our heart and in our spirit.
I have always felt like my spirit was beautiful but my heart was always fighting to be healthy, whole, secure. So on this day, I realized that I was no longer allowing the enemy to distort my view but that God has healed my heart and cleared my vision so that I can see the true beauty and light that radiates from my heart and spirit.
I hope you will begin to see that you are altogether beautiful and without flaws to God too. Because when you truly love someone, even their shortcomings are beautiful and worthy of grace. That’s how God sees you!
Heavenly Father, I pray that every person who is reading this devotional today be blessed by the gift that You have given me on this week. I pray that every woman who has never felt pretty enough or good enough will seek You to open their eyes in the same way. Help us Lord to see ourselves as You see us. Help us to dig deep enough within ourselves and within your Word to see the beauty and light that You’ve planted inside us. Holy Spirit, warn us when the enemy is attempting to distort our view of ourselves and give us the eyes of God so that we can see ourselves beyond our bodies and treat ourselves in the way that You do with kindness and gentleness.
In Jesus Name, Amen!
Do you have a love life? What is love life exactly? Is my love life non-existent, or is it thriving? No matter what your answer to these questions may be, I still encourage you to pray over your love life this year. (more…)
There are so many reasons one might defer or resist the idea of love again. So I can’t say the reasons I share with you on this day apply to every single mom. However, I have spent some years as a single mom and know a ton of single moms that have been either hesitant or feel that romantic love is too much of a hassle to pursue. (more…)
Being a successful single mom can seem like a daunting task. But the truth is that your success is just an arms reach away. (more…)
The world can make it seem like bravery is only for superheroes and fearless men. But I know a lot of everyday women and mothers who are waking up and being brave in their careers, parenting, faith, and families. However, plenty of women don’t know how to be brave. And if you keep reading, you will learn how to uncover your strength for yourself with God.
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Often times I try to shy away from talking about history and political activity too much. Sometimes it feels as though I am living in the past or discussing the inevitable. But this week, I wanted to take the time and give honor where honor is due. Today I share with you 7 life lessons I learn every time I reflect on the life, work, and ministry of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. (more…)
I think the biggest misconception regarding single mom success around the new year is that you are starting over new. That is far from the truth! A new year only resets your number of days but it does not change the intangibles and the journey you are whether it was all blessings or heaviness being carried into the new year. (more…)
Who knew I would now need to create a thanksgiving survival guide for single moms. Thanksgiving used to be my favorite holiday. I loved thanksgiving not for the labor of love in the kitchen but for the opportunity to eat until my heart and stomach was full. Why did I have to grow up? (more…)
I know some people will say that it’s a bit early to talk about Christmas. But I think it’s the perfect time of year to discuss some of my favorite books for single moms to gift this holiday season.
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I am laughing at the title so much because these words have never come out of my mouth before. But I thought it would be the catchy title to reel you in. Truth is: cuffing season is well underway, and for some, there will be cuffing; for others, we will develop healthy, long-lasting relationships, and for the rest of us, we won’t get pursued at all. I have been the queen of the latter for the past 5 years. But how to be confident being single when everyone else is getting boo’d up, engaged, or married. (more…)
As you know, November is coming; and for many of us, it’s the coined month for gratitude and thankfulness. I believe we all have our hearts set on living with gratitude in our daily lives but as single moms, we could be placed in unfavorable circumstance that distract us from our goal. But I am encouraging you today to keep striving to live in daily gratitude. (more…)
Fear, Anxiety, and Worry have been one happy family over the past 3 years. Interrupting the progress of myself and many others I know. But I know the very thing that can overcome all three confidence killers and help you move forward with increased confidence and trust in God. Below I share 50 bible verses to help you combat the struggle with fear, anxiety, and worry. (more…)
It takes courage and bravery to say what’s on your mind these days. With every other person getting canceled nowadays, you may hesitate and filter how you’re expressing yourself in certain circumstances. But I am here to tell you, don’t do that. Because if we do, we take away your secret weapon to kick-start your confidence as single moms. (more…)
Okay, you all, I had to go here even if we’re talking about friendships. I enjoy the love languages and the reasoning behind them. I hope Gary Chapman reads this blog post because he needs to add to the book series Love Languages for friends edition. You’ve heard it here first! (more…)
Even though some feel an ickiness around calling themselves a Christian single mom, I have come to the point in my life to own the seasons of life I am in when I am in them. Not to say that I will never no longer be single, but I know that at this moment, I am living life as a Christian mother in a season of singleness. But I also live by truths that help guide where I envision life and my daily actions. (more…)