7 Truths To Live By As A Christian Single Mom

Even though some feel an ickiness around calling themselves a Christian single mom, I have come to the point in my life to own the seasons of life I am in when I am in them. Not to say that I will never no longer be single, but I know that at this moment, I am living life as a Christian mother in a season of singleness. But I also live by truths that help guide where I envision life and my daily actions.

And maybe you have come to the point where you are tired of running the rat race of being a single mom, trying to fit in the box of being the Christian you think you should be, or feeling like dating and marriage is unattainable. If you find yourself in any of these states, then you, my friend, are in a state of overwhelm.

And the one thing I have done to combat this state is by making the vision and direction of my life plain & clear. So that everything else that comes my way has to filter through it to be able to reach me.

Therefore, if you haven’t done so already, I would encourage you to take time to identify the truths and values that you want to direct your life so that you can confidently move forward in your season of single Christian motherhood.

So below, I share with you the 7 truths I am living by in my life that have made life as a single mother more excellent with Christ.

7 Truths To Live By As A Christian Single Mom

As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Jesus is the way, truth, and life. (Joshua 24:15)

Okay, that was two truths, but I feel they are the same. Understanding who we are, who guides our path, and who knows us better than anyone will be our champion, our rock.

I used to hear the first line a lot as a kid in church, rolling my eyes. But it’s something about motherhood and adulthood that will get you in line, where you start to realize in all your craziness of youth that the Lord has been the only person keeping you and seeing you through impossible times. But it can only be valid for you if you believe.

God sees me, knows me, loves me, and appoints me. Deuteronomy 14:2

As single moms, we can often get into this place of isolation or feeling invisible, which are real feelings. Some of us are experiencing this from others, but sometimes we could be doing this to ourselves as a protective measure from letting others in.

But I have a news flash: you can never be invisible to God. You may ask, well, how do I know? He said it in his Word, his action, and through the Holy Spirit within us that says/does differently than what we can ever choose to say/do. You are never alone and have always been his daughter, even when you’re in the rebellious teenage phase of your Christian journey.

Love covers all offenses. Proverbs 10:12

Honestly, this can be a hard truth to accept and believe, especially in the current climate we are in as a world. Have you seen real love in action? When you experience and walk in love, it does shift and heal things in your life.

My biggest one was when I finally allowed God’s love into my life. Even though my past foolery happened, it no longer holds me down in my pain because of His love. I see offenses as things you’ve done wrongfully to yourself or others to cause discord or a break in connection. Love has always softened the hard things in life, even if the issue is still there. So my goal is to continue softening life’s blows with love.

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I am a people person created for relationships with God and others. Genesis 1 & 2

No matter how hard we want to go along with the idiom of “me, myself, and I,” there will always be a desire for us to connect with someone or something. It’s our job to be able to identify who we are to be in a relationship with in this life.

Even though you may fight the desire, it was put in you long ago when God designed and created humans. It’s not good for (hu)man to be alone applies not only to marriage and babymaking but to the everyday relationships that play a large part in our journey.

I sometimes joke that God may have spilled too much people-orientedness formula in the clay he used on me. But seriously, He makes no mistakes. I had seen my relationship with God grow much more in a community than when I was alone.

God will meet all my family’s needs and fill the gaps. Philippians 4:19

Where is your faith? Jesus says multiple times on many occasions to his disciples. Do you believe you are taken care of no matter what 100% of the time? If so, you are living in a perfect world. But as single moms, we can fall victim to the rat race of this world and forget to look for the source for what we need.

I have often felt that I was carrying a load for my family, not receiving the reciprocation of my sacrifices, so I get what it’s like to have limited resources. So I went on to worry, toil, and stress to find when in the end, God showed up for me anyway. Has anybody else been there?

I remind myself that God doesn’t want all that for us. He loves and wants us to lack nothing. So do your part in disciplining yourself and staying within what you know to do. Let God feel in those blank spaces in your life so you won’t lose your strength going at it alone, but gain strength with Him.

Trouble doesn’t always last. Psalms 30:1-5

I won’t say much about this, but if you have lived long enough, you know there is always a shift. Nothing stays the same for very long without your permission. So remind yourself that:

• Joy comes in the morning.
• There is always a way of escape.
• There’s a season for everything.
• Trust in God to help you and guide you into your promised land.

At times as single moms, our perspective is our problem. If we adjust our perspective, what we see as a dead end can be shifted to a place of incubation. It’s all about how you see your circumstances that will determine whether it will be a slingshot or prison.

There is hope and a better future for us all. Jeremiah 29:11

Hallelujah! I know we’ve all had our fair share of challenges and setbacks. But if you’ve been living long enough, you know there is a time and season for everything under the sun. I could read ecclesiastical for you, but instead, you go back and study.

I like looking back because I can see what seasons I am in now vs. where I was when I thought that hard season was for me or my story. But Jeremiah reminds us that that is not God’s plan for us. We have to stay the course of being in his Will, and we will see our future hope.

As my favorite scripture says:

 No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us. Phillipians 3:13-14

You and I still have work to do! Our lives don’t stop in troubled circumstances. They keep us focused and prepared for what’s to come. And the best is yet to come! If you can’t see, get around other like-minded Christian single moms. Hear their testimony, imagine them in your life, and trust and believe that God wants healing and transformation for you.

If you don’t walk or love by anything else I presented earlier, choose to walk and live by faith. It has changed my life, and I know it will work for you.

What other truths from God would you add to this list for your life?

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All in all,

Whether you are planning to use the truths that I picked out or create your own, please identify yours and start to assess how you are living life; In truth or overwhelmed?

Need additional support with your confidence-building journey?

You can also join the Women Seeking Confidence Facebook group for a community of women headed in the same direction as you in regards to growing in relationships:

Here are some other blog posts to support your journey as well:

Living in Boldness

Hanging on by a thread: Renew your faith

Trusting God as a single mom

5 easy ways to get God’s Word

Chyna Nicole

Chyna is a Faith Blogger and Speaker at Made New Mama, where she uplifts and empowers single women and moms to stop hiding behind challenges and start living confidently in their relationships through faith. Check out resources here: https://www.madenewmama.com/store/

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