Oh God!
Help me to believe again. Help me to believe in You, believe in me, and other people. Lord, help me believe that anything is possible. Believe that I will have that dream job, attract the life I truly desire, and the business that will not risk meeting the needs of my child. Amen.
It’s time for you to believe in yourself again!
I never wanted to get to this place. Worrying my way into poverty, stress, and frustration. Being a slave to overthinking and over-analyzing every situation. Could it be a glitch in my gift (loved that sermon)? Why has it been so difficult to believe in me again? There’s this song by Michelle Williams of Destiny’s Child that really got to me when I first heard it. The sweet melody talks about how our ability to believe has changed
But I knew I had to figure out how I could get my belief back, so I took the time to study.
Let’s explore:
Believe: (v). to accept (something) as true; feel sure of the truth of.
Belief: (n). an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists; trust, faith, or confidence in someone or something.
What is the science and supernatural behind believing?
According to Ralph Lewis M.D of Psychology Today, Beliefs are our brain’s way of making sense of and navigating our complex world. It is our mental representative of how we expect things in our environment to be and how the world should conform to our perspective. Beliefs is often tied into our sense of stability and can be seen early on with children being predisposed to believe their parents. Often times, our beliefs stem from someone of authority whether thats a boss, parent, higher power, etc. There’s also a possibility of people being swayed by persuasion through another individual or a compelling ideas. This instability can override and reject previous beliefs
In other words, believing is also a supernatural concept as well. It is recorded that the bible says believe 257 times, so believing is very essential element to our relationship with God and the gospel of christianity as a whole. John 3:16 emphasizes, ‘“For God loved the world so much that he gave. his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.” Believing typically goes hand and hand with trusting.
‘Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. ‘ Mark 11:24
Why should we believe?
We should believe because even if you say you don’t believe in anything, you are still believing in something. You are believing in something whether you know it or not. As you see in Mark, what you believe in private conversation, you will receive. So like me, I wanted to see different things in my life. Therefore, I needed to start believing that these changes will come to pass with faith, and it did!
Some of you may be feeling, that’s all good and dandy but how do I help manifest what I want for myself through believing.
I know it’s not an easy change to make. But with intentionality with God, anything is possible (Matthew 19:26) There is a process you need to go through to create an atmosphere for change. Look at all the people on social media, changing their lives. You may be sitting there saying that could never be me. But you know what, it CAN BE! Below I have provided 5 tips that will help you believe.
Tips to Believe In Yourself Again
Find out why you stopped believing or believing negatively.
Many of us, including myself, have gone through some difficulties. Difficulties that have dampened our confidence, dreams, and tainted our experience in this world. I know with all the political non-sense , I found myself no longer believing in the importance of the government.
Years of unhealthy relationships and heart-crushing breakups left me in a place of not believing that a romantic love was for me. But whatever it is that you’ve believed less of, bring it from the subconscious to the conscious mind (bring it to your attention). That is where real change begins to happen.
Take time to learn about your identity (in Christ).
This was a big one for me as my belief-dilemma stemmed from not knowing who I was prior to the world’s influence. I read and studied Ephesians 1- 2 so that I would have a solid foundation on who I was designed to be.
Once I had my Christ-centered identity established, then I was able to supplement with various personality test and spiritual gift assessments. They all helped me better understand myself, my strengths, and challenges.
What are your beliefs in each life area.
I love taking inventory of my life. Finding out my feelings towarrd my finances, my friends, and/or my job. Once I figure out what areas are not up-to-par, then I was able to better analyze my beliefs and thought processes.
Romantic relationships have been a problem area that I work on consistently. Because, to be honest, as a single mom, we need love too. But we don’t need the toxic type, which I find we constantly attract.Therefore, I am very intentional about overcoming the temptation to settle for less than I deserve. Set standards and list deal breakers for each area in your life, check out list to give you ideas of life areas on life satisfaction worksheet.
Turn the lies into truth.
This is where you will spend most of your time. I am still working on this after 2 years of being very intentional about changing my beliefs. However, there is a wonderful book called “ The Lies We Believe” by Dr. Chris Thurman, where he breaks down myths, distorted beliefs, and share stories of how he helped his clients to change them. He goes into God-based and daily struggles that hit close to home. I’ve been slapped across the face a couple times with a few sections. I linked the book here.
Biggest victory would be placing the new truths in place of the negative lies. You just need to take on a new perspective to reversing your beliefs by working on your thoughts and emotions regarding a particular area.
Live what you now believe.
If you are believing for something specific, you should already be planning and taking small steps toward seeing that manifestation. For example, I’m believing for my coaching business for single moms. I have taken steps to building my confidence with sharing my wisdom, connecting with other moms through mom groups, starting the blog, and getting under women who already have successful coaching businesses already. I am moving as if I know it will happen.
Don’t get me wrong, I still have those creeping thoughts of inadequacy, fear, and frustration. However, I know what my Father said, that anything is possible for those that believe in Him and in what they have to offer. Believe it until you become it!
I Believe Declaration
Below i’ve Created an “I Believe” Declaration printable to help you with the everyday habit-forming transformation of believing again. Click to get it below or under the Resource tab.
What’s Next?
We know we can’t change your beliefs overnight. But if we work at it, we can turn our new beliefs into a lifestyle. I know my belief in Jesus took awhile. Once I did the work and allowed God to be the number one in my life, my life has never been the same. This is not a salvation post but to give you a taste of what finally deciding to believe again in things that will better you. Know that you don’t have to live and feel this way. Believe that there is always an option whether you feel you can change or not.
If this task seems like a challenge that you won’t be able to take on by yourself, here are some resources.
Supportive Blog Post:
- How To Be Brave: Uncover Your Strength With God In 3 Ways (+Free Scripture Study)
- Do I Belong Here?: Scriptures and Quotes To Remind You That You Do
- Understanding Your Identity In Christ With These Printables
You can also join the Women Seeking Confidence Facebook group for a community of women headed in the same direction as you in regards to growing in relationships:
