Our Relationship With Self month has been nothing short of amazing. I love when I see other women intentionally knowing themselves and reaching their highest potential. To supplement our 30-day challenge, I wanted to create a resource of 50 questions to ask when dating yourself to increase what you are already doing.
What does dating yourself mean?
Dating yourself means that you are taking the time to get to know yourself. You see yourself as valuable and cherished, deciding to love yourself by spending time alone.
Dating yourself does not mean obsessing over yourself. This time is not a time to gain a false sense of confidence but to gain a greater understanding of how God made you, your experiences, and in ways that your are beautiful and areas that you need to mature or grow in.
How do you know if you are dating yourself?
You know that you are dating yourself when you are not dating allowing other things to distract your time with yourself. Dating yourself should be both continuous and through an intentional season of time where you dig deep and grow within yourself, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, etc.
If you are taking time to ask yourself the hard questions and listening to your inner woman empathetically, then you are dating yourself. Dating yourself is not ignoring wounds, getting in/out of relationships, always keeping people around to avoid loneliness. You are actually neglecting yourself when you live like that.
What is the importance of dating yourself?
Dating yourself is so important because it allows you an opportunity to know that you don’t know everything and you don’t have it all together. You get to a point when you have all the questions but can not answer them yourself.
In that moment, you open yourself to connecting with God so that you can understand yourself better, how you can overcome your challenges, and get to know the one who created you on a deeper level. Dating yourself leads to a more tremendous admiration and hunger to know God more.
But wait, there’s more!
Beyond the questions below, I added a list of a dozen journal prompts to get you thinking deeper. Some you may have to seek God for the truth concerning yourself. As we know, our ways can be deceitful to ourselves.
Therefore, as you are dating yourself, make sure you make room for God to be involved. Because who knows you better than Him.
I pray these prompts and 50 questions to ask when dating yourself will pique your curiosity and grow your relationship and intimacy with yourself so you can thrive in all your relationships.
Questions To Ask When Dating Yourself
- Who can I go to for advice?
- How has my relationship with God improved my self-love?
- What excites me enough to keep me focused for hours?
- What do I hope to achieve in life?
- What are the signs of when I’m thriving?
- What’s one way I can celebrate my body every day?
- What are my unique gifts and talents?
- What is my primary love language, and how do I receive it?
- What has made me feel worse about my body?
- What am I terrified of?
- What does self-love mean to me?
- What is my favorite quote or scripture I live by?
- How have I helped others in my life?
- What have I given up on, and why?
- What’s one topic I need to learn about to improve my life?
- How will I show up for myself today?
- All insecurities and doubts aside, what’s something I genuinely like about myself?
- How often do I think of the past?
- What’s my biggest pet peeve about other people? What’s my biggest pet peeve about myself?
- What was a seemingly small decision that dramatically changed the course of my life?
- What was I like as a little kid? As a teenager?
- What’s something I wish I had started doing and stopped doing earlier in my life?
- Would I ever want to be famous? Why or why not?
- When did I last cry in front of another person? By myself?
- What risk would you take if I knew I wouldn’t fail?
- If you could snap my fingers and become a totally different person, would I do it?
- What are my most common negative thoughts? Are they logical?
- What always makes me feel more confident?
- What do people often misunderstand about me?
- What are my short-term goals and long-term goals? And why are these important to me?
- What does success mean to me? And what would I have to do to feel successful?
- What is my relationship with money? What are my views on the power of money?
- What lies do I tell myself and others regularly, and why?
- What are my values?
- Do I find that I am happiest when single, in a relationship, or does it make no difference?
- How important is it to me that I experience love in your life?
- How important is marriage for me, and why?
- Do I have fun?
- What do I need more of in my life?
- How would I describe my family to someone new?
- What does sex typically mean to me?
- What does family mean to me?
- Am I where I always thought I would be? Why or why not?
- What is my secret talent?
- What do I believe in?
- Am I prone to jealousy? What can I do to change that in my life?
- Is what I’m eating making me the best that I can be?
- Am I doing everything I can to have a healthy lifestyle? If not, what can I do better?
- How is my ability to make good, sound choices?
- What have I learned about myself so far? What am I excited to explore in the future?
Journal Prompts:
- My favorite way to spend the day is…
- I couldn’t imagine living without…
- If someone tells me I am amazing I respond with…
- I feel the happiest in my skin when…
- If I could talk to my younger self, I would say…
- I wish I could…
- I feel fully confident when…
- I am releasing thought patterns that no longer serve me by…
- I honor my boundaries of ….
- I am fully deserving of taking the time to…
- I am worthy of everything my heart desires because…
- I deserve to make taking care of myself a priority because…
All in all,
Praying you to grow in your understanding of yourself and how God wired you. I pray that dating yourself will open your eyes to how amazing you are.
Hoping you begin to address and heal the wounds of the past so you can walk into the future God has for you. Through dating yourself, you unpack the mess and embrace the beauty.
I declare intimacy, care, love, and awareness over your relationship with yourself for the past, present, and future.
What other questions would you ask yourself while dating yourself?
Let me know in the comments how your ‘dating yourself’ experience is going and how your relationship with yourself has changed using these questions and prompts.
Supportive blog post:
- 7 Powerful Questions To Ask Yourself Before Dating Again As A Single Mom
- Honor Yourself By Managing Your Feelings Well
- 3 Reasons Why Expressing Yourself Is The Ultimate Start To Building Your Confidence
- 5 Quick Prayers For A Healthy Relationship With Yourself
- Self-Esteem As A Mom: Three Simple Ways To Improve
Share below how these questions and prompts have grown your relationship with yourself. Join the Women Seeking Confidence group to share as well.
